You are unique. There is no one in the world like you, with your personality and talents and strengths. NOW is the very best chance you have to grow into who you were meant to be. In fact, the only and best person you can be is you! The following are some tips to help you be who you were meant to be:
1 Throw out dumb labels. “Normal” isn’t a label worthy of your pursuit. It’s worthless. Comparing yourself to others isn’t going to help you either. What you need is a way to compare yourself to yourself.
2 Stop blaming other people for your situation. Decide who you really are. Consider that you have been trained to be a certain way from birth by your parents, and your peers. You are capable of so much more then the limited beliefs that have been placed on you. Your own beliefs as well.
3 Live your own life. Coveting someone else’s is doomed to fail, and you’re frittering away your chance to grow. You may learn from others but you must forge your own path.
4 Challenge yourself. You will grow in confidence and self-esteem if you keep pushing back at your self-imposed limitations. Take a risk; if it doesn’t work out, nothing is lost, but you’ll know you tried.
5 Be gentle with yourself and others. Life can be tough sometimes; we need to nourish and encourage each other. That means letting of all judgment. Especially self judgment.
6 Confront your fears. If you’re afraid of public speaking, for example, join Toastmasters. If you can’t stand being in a swimming pool, sit in the children’s wading pool. You’ll be surprised how much the fears shrink as you stretch your boundaries.
7 Get to know your higher self. You can do it in your imagination. Basically you just visualize yourself going to a room, meeting your future self, and having a conversation with him/her. It’s a very enlightening experience.
8 Start loving yourself as though you are that new person. Enjoy becoming your new self, but be patient. You are like a newborn baby and you have to start building yourself all over again with what you have. Work hard to get there, but if you fall down, get back up.